a smile is a special gift
to share with one another
to do so gives your day a lift
and makes the world look kinder
when you see your smile reflected
on the faces of people passing by
you’ll know they’ve been infected
by the twinkle in their eye
and the smiles swiftly spread
to others through the day
and all because you had one
to kindly give away
– pc 2012
The other day, while going through some photographs, I spied one of my grandson that I just adore. And although I think he is the cutest little boy in the world, it’s his smile that captivates me in this picture.
And I thought about how easily children share their smiles with others, and in doing so, brighten up our day. Just because we are grown-ups now and busy doing serious things, doesn’t mean we can’t take the time to share a smile with someone we encounter as we dash about. And smiling is infectious. When a person passing by flashes you a big smile, it’s difficult not to return in kind. I’m a lucky one. Between Evelyn and Gavin, I’m surrounded by smiles that light up their faces whenever they see me. Talk about the power of a smile. Nothing finer!
My mother is a great example of this. She has weathered her share of difficult times in her 89 years of life, but she is always has a smile on her face when she greets other people and everyone she meets is immediately taken with her. I think a big part of this is her friendly personality, and a big part of that is her smile. It makes people feel good to be around people with a smile on their face.
This brings to mind my favorite scene in the movie City Slickers. Billy Crystal plays the role of a man somewhat dissatisfied with his life. His pals give him a birthday trip to herd cattle at a ranch out west. His wife, aware of his state of mind, encourages him to go. Needless to say, all three of the pals experience revelations about their lives as they face many challenges. But when Billy Crystal arrives home, and his wife greets him at the airport he says, pointing to his smile, “Look what I found.” She asks, “Where was it?” And he replies,”In Colorado. It’s always in the last place you look.” Funny, but so true. Sometimes we simply don’t know where or when we lost our smile, but there are ways to find it.
If you come to a point in your life when you cannot muster a smile, you have work to do. Meditation can help this, as Thich Nhat Hanh, Buddhist teacher and author, writes in his book, Peace is Every Step. Meditation can help, for the source of a true smile is an awakened mind. Meditation can help us deal with matters that may be the cause of our unhappiness. Thich Nhat Hanh suggests we practice smiling by doing so when we first wake up in the morning. A smile, he writes, affirms our awareness and determination to live in peace and joy. Let the singing of the birds or the slant of sunlight streaming through your window remind you to smile.
Marion Tripp, a friend of Thich Nhat Hanh, wrote “The Dandelion Poem”, which he includes in his book, Peace is Every Step:
I have lost my smile,
but don’t worry.
The dandelion has it
As long as you can recognize that your smile is somewhere, all is not lost .Open yourself to the help and support of those around you and your smile will return.
Once you have it safely in place on your face, share it with others, and watch the happiness you spread grow and infect the rest of the world. Who knows, maybe something as simple a s a smile can save us all. At the very least, it can save me and you!