Although 2014 has not started out as auspiciously as I had hoped, there is a certain balance to the universe that can bring us some measure of peace. One of the people I wrote about earlier, my friend’s husband, who fought a valiant fight against cancer, passed away on December 27th. I now have four friends, who are widows far sooner than they ever expected, but their strength and courage in care giving and in facing the death of their partner in life, is a true testament to the power of love – to love them enough to let them go.
But hiding in the shadow of death and loss, is the promise of new life. For even as my friend and her family were dealing with the loss of their beloved husband and father, their good friend received news of the birth of her new grandson. One soul departs this world, and another soul enters it. Life goes on, renewing itself, generation after generation. And what fuels it is love. As the Buddha said, “In the end these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you love? How deeply did you learn to let go?”
Some of us reach a ripe old age and others are lost far too young. We don’t know how much time we have and so we mustn’t waste it. We must love with all our heart for as long as we live and the universe will find its balance – a man who loved his family; a new baby surrounded by the love of family. As crazy and cruel as the world is, I prefer to stay an optomist. Lorraine Hansberry sums it up nicely. “I wish to live because life has with it that which is good, that which is beautiful and that which is love. “ And, as those of us who grew up in the 60’s know, love is all we need.